Josh Dauner, LPC involves us from Springfield Missouri the place he works 100% nearly, specializing in trauma therapy. He’s wanting ahead to broadening his scope of observe as a supplier for Spring Well being.
I sat down with Josh to study his strategy, what he finds significant as a therapist, what he’s discovered through the years, and most significantly, how he manages his personal psychological well being.
What do you discover most rewarding about being a therapist?
Josh: Watching folks have these “light-bulb” moments. There comes a time with nearly each consumer after they make a connection, or have an “aha” second, they usually all of a sudden see some facet of their life in a totally completely different approach.
That is the place lasting change begins to take form, and it’s a privilege to be a part of that course of.
It appears like moments like this are what retains you within the discipline?
Josh: Sure. I like connecting with folks on a deep, emotional stage. Throughout highschool and faculty, I labored jobs in retail and quick meals, and shortly realized that I wanted significant interactions with folks in my life.
It’s really easy to not give somebody the good thing about the doubt when nothing about them. However while you get to know somebody on a deep stage—while you perceive what they’ve been by way of, what motivates them, what upsets them—it’s a lot simpler to strategy them with compassion.
And what do you discover most difficult?
Josh: It’s a wrestle to separate from my work on the finish of the day. It’s onerous to not carry folks’s tales with me into my very own life, relationships, and interactions. I’ve discovered that I periodically have to alter my self-care strategies, as a result of what works now could solely work for a season.
Talking of that, how do you handle your personal psychological well being?
Josh: I’ve a lot of go-to self-care practices:
- Go to remedy
- Play my trumpet
- Go for a stroll (with out headphones, to benefit from the sounds of nature)
Having a self-care routine helps with tough days. How do you deal with these difficult days or robust instances with shoppers?
Josh: I consider all the things boils all the way down to current second experiences. My go-to methodology for navigating any difficult state of affairs is to interrupt it down:
- What is occurring at this second?
- What are you feeling proper now?
- What simply occurred while you raised your voice?
So usually we function on a rollercoaster of crisscrossing feelings, expectations, and wishes. Generally, we don’t even understand we’re firing on all cylinders till we take a second to decelerate and actually really feel what’s occurring.
Once we can step again, take a breath, and analyze our reactions with an open and curious thoughts, we enter into this magical house the place we discover options we didn’t understand we had.
That is how I attempt to function with my shoppers throughout tough conditions, and it’s how I look after myself throughout and after classes.
June is male psychological well being month. What recommendation do you might have for different therapists who determine as male?
Josh: Encompass your self with different males who perceive the significance of expressing feelings. Poisonous masculinity nonetheless runs rampant in our society, and lots of males are taught that to really feel or specific their feelings is an indication of weak point.
I’m a therapist, and I wrestle with it too. But it surely’s simpler while you’ve bought a help system that doesn’t decide you.
How about recommendation do you might have for therapists with shoppers who determine as male?
Josh: Acknowledge that some male shoppers will take a very long time to open up. It could be straightforward to mistake an absence of emotional vulnerability and minimal verbal interplay as an indication of resistance to remedy (and typically it’s).
However some males haven’t discovered be emotionally weak, and should not be capable of determine their feelings straight away. Be affected person. They’ll get there.
Any remaining ideas?
Josh: I’ve discovered from my shoppers that you just simply need to journey the waves of life. All of us have concepts about who we wish to be, what we wish to do, the place we wish to find yourself, and who we wish to be standing beside us once we get there.
On the finish of the day, there may be a lot that’s outdoors of our management. We should always completely attempt to be our greatest selves, and to at all times be studying and rising as people.
However in some unspecified time in the future, you simply have to acknowledge that life throws you curveballs. And while you continuously attempt to struggle them, you’re losing extra vitality than it’s essential.
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